I started blogging back in 2009, but you won’t find any of those posts on Very Hungry Explorer, because two years ago I was advised to remove content considered ‘overly personal’ by a blogging expert and back in the day all my posts were personal, as I was writing about me and all the stuff I got up to.

I’ve seen this happen to a lot of other bloggers as well. Mostly these sites start off as an online diary of sorts, but then you get more and more readers and the little blog takes up most of your time, so you want to make it more professional (and maybe start earning a little money from it), so you start looking into how to make your blog better and that is where the blog experts come from.

Here are the rules that I’ve been given over and over again:

  • Don’t blog about anything too personal – your blog should be a brand and not just about you
  • Make each blog post an article, rather than I did this and I went there and this happened
  • make sure you have a niche – and don’t stray from that EVER
  • absolutely do not swear  and definitely do not use the word vagina
  • post consistently, at the same time, on the same days each week
  • write posts that will attract new readers

Loving this pic from www.msmoem.com

If you’re a blogger yourself, or if you read a lot of blogs you’ll probably know of many that fit this description and there is nothing wrong with that.  There is nothing wrong with that kind of blog at all.  Except it doesn’t work for me.  Philip (my Mr.) is a writer and he gave a talk at an event recently where he said one of the most important things about your writing is finding your voice.

I realised as I was sat there that I had completely lost my voice, that I didn’t sound like me at all anymore. My blog had become so generic and so professional that I wasn’t including any of my personality in it.  I don’t want to be a sickly sweet blogger that loves everything – cos if you ever meet me in real life you’ll be in for a huge shock.

I feel that I am constantly battling between being a ‘professional’ blogger and just blogging about the things that I want to blog about.   Which to be honest, will be mainly eating and travel, cos I do a lot of that. But who knows, maybe I’ll shake it up a little 🙂



  • What happened to blogs being your space of the internet to express yourself? I’ve fallen prey to those rules sometimes and it starts not to feel like me at all (or that I’m finishing homework rather than blogging for the thrill/love/joy of it). The very same blog rules make the the blogging world homogeneous…. and then someone comes along with something that blows the rules apart and does very well. No swearing … thug kitchen smashed it. Nothing personal? Well who do you relate to? Joy the Baker, Smitten Kitchen and Does My Bum Look 40 in this? all such me into their world as open and sharing human beings. How sad you deleted those early posts. I’ve kept mine and they are a bit toe curlingly embarrassing but also part of the stepping stones of my blogging journey. So glad to have found your blog.

  • Sara says:

    Preach it sister, PREACH IT!

  • Sarah says:

    Lovely and brilliant post! I totally agree with you 🙂 your blog is about you and wat you love. It’s the personality you give it that makes it interesting!

  • Oh I feel you! Sonetimes I have the same exact feelings…blogging should be fun first, let’s not forget that! 🙂

  • I don’t think I’ve ever used one of those rules. Crikey. Some months I get one post out, others I get 5. There are no rules. And your blog is about you. Write about you and with your voice …. Sheesh!

  • you used the V word???

    Seriously – the rule I live by is to follow my own rules….

  • Marianne says:

    Totally know what you mean – there’s a lot of pressure in blogging, surprisingly! However I’m staunchly in favor of doing exactly what I want with my blog. For example I haven’t wanted to do social media because I’ve worked in social media and I didn’t want to do it for myself – maybe that means I haven’t had as many readers as I could have… but I dont’ really mind that. Also I happen to like the more personal posts from bloggers! Those are the blogs I tend to return to. Im usually less interested in blogs that seem like I can’t tell who’s writing it.

    I firmly think that your blog should be about what YOU want and never about what anybody else wants.

  • Kim Carberry says:

    I have totally broken all of those rules…..It’s my blog and I’ll blog about what I want to, how I want to!

  • Brilliant. Love this post 🙂

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